Understand Your Need for Connection
What's called 'clinginess' is often an anxious attachment style developed for good reasons. Somatic work helps you feel secure from within.
You're Not Alone
Do These Patterns Feel Familiar?
You need constant reassurance in relationships
Separation from loved ones triggers intense anxiety
You fear abandonment even when there's no evidence of it
You can't stop thinking about your relationship when apart
Small changes in a partner's behavior feel threatening
You've been told you're 'too much' or 'too needy'
Anxious attachment isn't a flaw—it's a strategy your nervous system developed to survive
When early caregivers were inconsistently available, your nervous system learned to amp up attachment behaviors to get your needs met. That was smart then—but it may be exhausting now.
Understanding
What is Anxious Attachment?
What gets called 'clinginess' is usually anxious attachment—a pattern that developed in early childhood when your caregivers' availability was unpredictable.
When you couldn't count on consistent response to your needs, your nervous system turned up the volume on attachment signals. Crying louder, clinging harder, monitoring constantly—these strategies helped you get the care you needed to survive.
As an adult, this pattern persists. Your nervous system still doesn't trust that connection will be there, so it stays hypervigilant about relationships, scanning for signs of withdrawal or abandonment.
In somatic work, we help your nervous system develop a new experience: that you can be secure within yourself. As you build this internal foundation, the desperate clinging naturally relaxes.
Transformation
What Somatic Work Can Do For You
Real, lasting change is possible. Here's what clients experience.
Inner Security
Feel okay within yourself, even when others aren't immediately available.
Relaxed Love
Enjoy relationships without constant anxiety about their stability.
Self-Trust
Know you'll be okay regardless of what others do.
Healthy Relationships
Attract and maintain connections that aren't based on fear.
Peace of Mind
Stop the constant rumination about your relationships.
Balanced Attention
Have energy for other parts of life besides relationship monitoring.
The Process
How We Work Together
A gentle, collaborative approach designed to meet you exactly where you are.
Understanding the Pattern
We explore how anxious attachment developed and how it's served you—even while limiting you.
Building Internal Security
Develop resources that provide a sense of safety that doesn't depend on another person's availability.
Regulating Attachment Activation
Learn to calm the alarm that goes off when separation or threat to connection is perceived.
Practicing Secure Relating
Apply new patterns in actual relationships, processing what arises along the way.
Questions & Answers
Frequently Asked Questions
Get answers to common questions about somatic work and how I can help.
Is anxious attachment the same as being loving?
No. Anxious attachment often masquerades as deep love, but it's actually driven by fear. Secure attachment allows for even deeper, more relaxed love.
Will becoming more secure mean I won't need people?
No. You'll still want and enjoy connection—but it won't feel desperate. The clinging relaxes into genuine, secure attachment.
My partner says I'm too needy. Are they right?
Your attachment needs are valid—the question is whether the intensity is serving you. We work on building internal security so you can get your needs met without the anxiety.
What are your fees?
My fee is $175 per 60-minute session. Longer sessions are available and prorated accordingly. I reserve a limited number of sliding scale slots for individuals who need nervous system healing but face financial barriers. If cost is a concern, please reach out to discuss current availability. I don't accept insurance.
About Me
Who I Am
I'm Dario Droznes, a certified Somatic Experiencing practitioner. I believe healing happens when we listen to what our bodies have been trying to tell us. Together, we'll gently work with the tension, exhaustion, and overwhelm you've been carrying, helping your nervous system find its way back to safety and ease.
Ready to Feel Secure?
You can develop the inner security you've been seeking in others. It starts with one conversation.